Painless Formals

 As a wedding photographer, the hardest part of my day is getting people together for formal photographs. My goal is to get it done as quickly as possible which is why I do some planning ahead of the event as far as timeline and lighting and I use a formal shot list.

Traditional formal photographs have always been taken during cocktail hour.  The problem is we generally start with family formals and then go on to taking photographs of the bride and groom. Many times I find family members would rather be at cocktail hour then taking photographs. So a lot of time is wasted trying to track down family members in the area where cocktail hour is happening which leaves me only a little time with the bride and groom.
What I’ve started to do with my couples is to do a first look and the photos of the couple and finally family formals all before the ceremony. Which leaves us with lots of options as far as the timeline.
Option 1 – If timing runs on schedule the brides is ready, we do the first look, formals of the couple and family formal. Ceremony starts and the couple is free to enjoy their cocktail hour and I do mostly candids for the rest of the evening.
Option 2 – If the bride runs a little late getting ready, we do the first look and then just family formals. During the ceremony, we can do photos of the new couple and hopefully the couple can catch the last part of their cocktail hour.
When you do the formals before the ceremony you don’t have to deal with the distraction of cocktail hour, and couples get the opportunity to go to their cocktail hour. It also helps with the flow of the day.
The reason I do a formal shot list is because it gets my couples thinking about who they want to get photos with before their wedding day, so we’re not left trying to do it on-the-fly the day of. Also, it organizes the all the shots. In general, I start with members of the family that are handy-capped, then I go to the photos that have the biggest group or those who are present. Then I narrow the groups down and check of all the photos that the bride requested.
Many photographers don’t even bother with a formal shot list because they don’t want the liability. I beg my clients to fill it out, it saves us so much stress the day of. Many times my brides don’t want to fill it out and they end up not getting all the people in the formals that they want. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve sent the shot list to a bride, they don’t fill it out and after the event, they make a comment about how they wished they got a photo with so and so. As a photographer who works so hard to make my clients over joyed and happy it really bums me out but it not my fault.

Wedding Rings

For the most part a wedding band is worn on the left had. Many times brides will walk down the asile wearing their engagement ring on their right hand and then after their ceremony they put the engagement band on their left hand with their wedding band going on first.

My heritage is mostly Irish so I found this interesting to read about the Claddagh wedding band.
“The Claddagh has two hands clasping a heart, and the hands are usually holding a crown. The elements of this symbol are often said to correspond to the qualities of love (the heart), friendship (the hands), and loyalty (the crown).
The way that a Claddagh ring is worn on the hand is usually intended to convey the wearer’s romantic availability, or lack thereof.
Traditionally, if the ring is on the right hand with the heart facing outward and away from the body, this indicates that the person wearing the ring is not in any serious relationship, and may in fact be single and looking for a relationship: “their heart is open.”
When worn on the right hand but with the heart facing inward toward the body, this indicates the person wearing the ring is in a relationship, or that “someone has captured their heart”.
A Claddagh worn on the left-hand ring finger facing outward away from the body generally indicates that the wearer is engaged.
When the ring is on the left-hand ring finger and facing inward toward the body, it generally means that the person wearing the ring is married.” [1]
*If my boy friend is reading this you don’t get to buy me just one ring!
CLADDAGH RING ORIGIN
“There are a variety of legends about the origins of the ring. One tale is about Margareth Joyce, a woman of the Joyce clan. She married a Spanish merchant named Domingo de Rona. She went with him to Spain, but he died and left her a large sum of money. She returned to Ireland and, in 1596, married Oliver Ogffrench, the mayor of Galway. With the money she inherited from her first marriage, she funded the construction of bridges in Connacht. All this out of charity, so one day an eagle dropped the Claddagh ring into her lap, as a reward.
Another story tells of a Prince who fell in love with a common maid. To convince her father his feelings were genuine and he had no intentions of “using” the girl, he designed a ring with hands representing friendship, a crown representing loyalty, and a heart representing love. He proposed to the maid with this ring, and after the father heard the explanation of the symbolism of the ring, he gave his blessing.
One legend that may be closer to historical truth is of a man named Richard Joyce, another member of the Joyce clan and a native of Galway. He left his town to work in the West Indies, intending to marry his love when he returned. However his ship was captured and he was sold as a slave to a Moorish goldsmith. In Algiers, with his new master, he was trained in his craft. When William III became king, he demanded the Moors release all British prisoners. As a result, Richard Joyce was set free. The goldsmith had such a great amount of respect for Richard Joyce that he offered Joyce his daughter and half his wealth if Joyce stayed, but he denied his offer and returned home to marry his love who awaited his return. During his time with the Moors he forged a ring as a symbol of his love for her. Upon his return he presented her with the ring and they were married.” [2]
Misty fables surrounds one of Ireland’s unique treasures, “The Claddagh” a symbol of Love, Friendship and loyalty.
Some 400 years ago in a fishing village called Claddagh overlooking Galway Bay, close to the city of the Tribes, lived Richard Joyce a Master Goldsmith. It was he who crafted this now famous design that has become part of the IRISH heritage.
The Claddagh Ring belongs to a widespread group of finger rings called Fede or “Faith rings” which date from Roman times. They are distinguished by having the bezel cut or cast in the form of two clasped hands, symbolizing faith, trust or “plighted troth”. Fede rings were popular in the Middle Ages throughout Europe, and there are examples from this time in the National Museum of Ireland, Kildare Street, and Dublin. The “Claddagh” ring is a particularly distinctive ring; two hands clasp a heart surmounted by a crown.
The ring worn on the right hand, crown turned inward tells your heart is yet unoccupied, worn with the crown turned outwards reveals love is being considered. Worn on the left hand the crown turned outward shows all, your heart is truly spoken for.
W. Dillon in his publication on “The Claddagh Ring” in the Galway Archaeological Society Journal, Vol. IV, 1905-6, defines the limits over which the ring is worn as roughly from the Aran Islands on the West, and through all Connemara and Joyce Country to Galway, and then eastward and southward for not more than 12 miles at most. The whole district is the one served by fisher folk of the Claddagh village just outside the city of Galway, but became known as the Claddagh ring probably because of the proximity to the city of the large Claddagh fishing community using the ring alone.
Huge numbers of Claddagh rings were left with a Mr. Kirwan following the Great Famine 1846/7 which finally had to be consigned to the melting pot as there was nobody to redeem or purchase them, hence the difficulty in ascertaining their origin.
Dillon describes some early rings, one with a mitre-like crown, rings made from coins, an analogous ring from Brittany, a “Munster” ring, also Spanish rings with some similarities. He tells us that the Claddagh ring was the only ring ever made in Ireland worn by Queen Victoria and later by Queen Alexandra and King Edward VII. Their rings were made by Dillon’s of Galway, established in 1750, to whom the Royal Patent was granted and the tradition has been carried on at Dillons to this day. Prince Rainier and Princess Grace of Monaco in 1962 were presented with gifts embodying the Claddagh ring motif set in Connemara marble.
In 1984 when Galway celebrated its Quincentennial as a Mayoral City, the people of Galway presented a specially commissioned 18-carat gold Claddagh ring to President Ronald Reagan.
The earliest examples of Claddagh rings that can be dated are stamped with RI, the mark of Richard Joyce, a goldsmith working in Galway circa 1689-1737, of the Joyce Tribe, one of the renowned “Fourteen Tribes of Galway”. According to Dr. Kurt Ticker in “The Claddagh Ring – A West of Ireland Folklore Custom” (1980) interest in Claddagh rings became dormant after Richard Joyce ended his manufacturing career in the 1730s, and it was revived a generation or more later, probably by George Robinson (Dillon in fact had attributed the earliest ring to Robinson). From then on a number of Galway goldsmiths and jewelers of Galway made Claddagh rings. Their early manufacture was by cattle-bone mold casting, then the “lost wax” process up to the 1840s, when manufacture became commercialized.
Some Marks on Claddagh Rings from the latter part of the 17th to the early part of the 18th century.
CLADDAGH JEWELERS AND THEIR MARKS
MARK
JEWELER
RI
RICHARD JOYCE, GALWAY
GR
GEORGE ROBINSON, GALWAY
AR
ANDREW ROBINSON, GALWAY
NB
NICHOLAS BURDGE, GALWAY
F
AUSTIN FRENCH, GALWAY
JD RD WD
DILLON
JS
JOHN SHADWELL
TH
unknown
The Origins of the Claddagh Ring even yet remains a matter for conjecture, both popular stories of its origins attribute it to the Joyce family of Galway City. The two stories are as follows.
The first story says that a Margaret Joyce married Domingo de Rona, a wealthy Spanish merchant who traded with Galway. They proceeded to Spain, where he died, leaving her a considerable fortune. Returning to Galway she used her fortune to build bridges from Galway to Sligo, and re-married Oliver Og French, Major of Galway 1596/7. She was rewarded for her good works and charity by an eagle that dropped the original Claddagh ring into her lap. 

The second story says that Algerian corsairs, sold to a Moorish goldsmith who trained him in the craft, captured a Richard Joyce of Galway. In 1689 he was released from slavery as a result of a demand from King William III. The Moor offered him his only daughter in marriage and half his wealth, if he would remain in Algiers, but Joyce declined and returned home. He brought with him the idea of the Claddagh ring. The earliest Claddagh rings to be traced bear his mark and the initial letters of his name, RI (Richard Joyce).
From Pot of Gold

She said Yes!

Brian not my boyfriend but another Brian called me the other day and told me he was going to ask his girlfriend Laura to marry him. Since Laura does public relations for photographers he knew that he had to hire a professional to capture the proposal. He came up with the idea to drag Laura down to the beach below Terrene in Palos Verdes for (fake) “sunrise yoga.” Brian and I met and we decided that I would bring a yoga mat lay it out and when the couple arrived I would tell them that I was taking photos for the instructor’s website.
I got to the beach about 15 min before the couple did. I spent the whole time worried about how I was going to lie to this girl. I seriously can’t lie, so it was hard for me to pass the whole thing off. I was actually practicing to answer the questions she might ask me about the class. I even practiced telling her that it was my first time to class so I really know nothing.
Here are a few tips for the guys planning to ask their girls.
–      Keep in mind time of day for lighting purposes
–      Location and People
–      Try and think of a plan that would make her dress in a way that would be flattering if caught on film
–      Try and get her to do her makeup and hair.
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*Girls hate having their pictures taken without their hair and makeup being done. 

 

 

Who controls the Money?

So recently I was at a wedding where after we got through the traditional speeches they decided to open up the microphone to guests. Which I’ve only seen a handful of times. Most brides like to assign speeches. So they open the microphone up… Guests start to give these tear-jerking speeches.  Then grandpa stands up. I’m expecting this sweet speech about watching grandchildren grow up. He takes out a $100 and says, “I want to know who controls the household. Whoever has control over the money has the control over the household.”  The feminist, journalistic, photographer in me really though oh this could be good. Grandpa walked over to the couple and the bride politely allowed the groom to snatch the $100 from grandpa’s hand. Grandpa took out his pointer finger and said, “That’s the last time. You have control over the money.” I still get a big smile thinking about grandpa. I love when unexpected things happen at weddings.

Here are my Cake Rules..

 

So one thing that no one tells you is how to cut a wedding cake. So when there is no wedding planner it’s usually me explaining to a bride and groom how to cut the cake. I start off assigning them one side of the cake. I choose the side based on lighting and where the guest will be standing. Then I have them cut the cake together, scoop the cake on a plate, and then they take turns feeding each other.  My simple rule is that the bride allows the groom to feed her first if for whatever reason the groom’s hand slips and cake winds up all over the bride’s face. She will get the last laugh. In general, I find the brides are usually the first ones to throw cake. Either way, I tend to look out for the bride’s best interest.
*If you plan on throwing cake you might want to have a bride’s maid standing by with a napkin, a glass of water, mirror and touch up makeup.

Photo Booth

 

 

 

 

Photo booth
When it comes to photo booths ours is a little different from the rest.  Traditional photo booths have you locked into a tight space, which makes it fairly hard to capture large groups. When we set up a photo booth it’s more like a high fashion shoot. We bring lights, umbrellas and we roll out a seem less backdrop. If you want we can even coordinate your background with your wedding colors. We even have a photographer on hand to help wit posing to shoot you.
I find photo booths are a great way to entertain guests. I tend to think photos booths are better then the traditional table shots. With our photo booth each guest gets a 4×6 print of their photos, you get an album and we place all the images on an online gallery.

The June Bride

June should be the most popular month to get married but it’s really not. I guess people associate June weddings with June Gloom. From a photographers standpoint, the gloom acts like a giant soft-box hung from the sky, which provides even, flattering natural lighting.

The longest days of the whole year are in June because of the summer solstice. Which means after a typical sunset wedding you have two hours of magic hour, which is perfect for pictures. If you don’t know what magic hour is.. Read The Magic Hour. The temperature in June is usually the best warm but not hot, cool but not cold.
Another thing to consider most flowers are available in June. A girl friend of mine Hannah from Modern Bouquet told me “I can get any flower a bride wants in June. Which isn’t the case in any other month.”
Typically June seems to be the slowest month for weddings and honestly it’s a little disappointing because it’s the perfect month to get married.
If I were getting married tomorrow…. I’d be a June Bride.

One Love…

 

One love
The idea of waking up next to the same person for the next 50 years can be a little overwhelming. I’m on a flight right now and across the aisle from me is an elder couple. Watching these two interact with each other is in a way beautiful. I suspect they’ve been together for the past 50+ years. The way they hold each other’s hand during the take off.
One of my favorite wedding traditions is the anniversary dance.  The anniversary dance is when all the married couples get a special dance in their honor. After about 30 sec. into the song the DJ excuses the couples in ascending order, starting with the newly married couple. I tend to cry when he gets past 30 years. I love it when the DJ has to keep going 30 years, 35 years, 40 years, 45 years… At one point there are two elderly couples battling for the title of married the longest.
It gets me every time… To see two people that are madly in love after a million years.  I love it when the cheesy DJ always asks them if they have a special message for the happy couple. They always say with a big she’s always right, short memories and a great sense of humor.
I love weddings…

House Rules

 

When I meet with a couple for the first time and go over wedding details I always ask them about their wedding officiate or church; if they have mentioned anything about photography rules. Its fairly common for churches to have rules of what a photographer can and can’t do during a ceremony. Out of respect for everyone I try to abide by those rules. I actually have it in my contract that The House Rules.
The reason I ask them is so I can plan my shots and work around the rules. Which cameras, and lenses I need to bring. Many times I’ll research the location and find out the available or ambient light in the church. If I’m limited as far as where I can be during the ceremony I’ll look up the layout and try and figure out the best angles. My goal during the ceremony is to capture those blessed moments like a ninja sneaking around.  

Take a Picture it will Last Longer

After the cakes been cut, the bouquet has been tossed, the music been turned down, the guests have all gone home and the dress has been boxed the only thing you have left is a new shiny ring and PHOTOs. This is where I’d like to insert a bunch of bad wedding photos.

Weddings are once in a lifetime, you want to have yours captured by a professional wedding photographer. I feel like a broken record but it’s true.